Dateline: Saturday, July 6, 2019
This has been the year for reuniting with long-lost relatives. After 41 years
apart, my cousin, Linda Thornhill Willett, in Texarkana, my home town, talks
with me every week now, fifteen minutes of laughter, usually about the foibles
of our mutual Walker relatives. After almost two decades apart, my brother, Dan
Norman, has visited us twice this year, driving my mother, Lucille Norman, Aunt
Alice Walker, and niece Tammy Norman to Daytona Beach, Tomoka C.I., for a few
hours together.
The record was set this past Saturday when my cousin, Sue Jones, from North
Carolina, visited with Libby and me. It has been at least sixty years since
Sue's sisters, Betty and Jane, spent time with our family one summer when we
first moved to Florida from Texas. We had a great time together hitting it off
and becoming acquainted. Sue came to Florida to visit her sisters, and the
last-minute visitation approval scramble almost didn't coalesce.
Sue's mother, formerly Frankie Lee Norman, was my father Eugene Norman's eldest
sister. She married Ed Hatchell, and they raised three daughters and a son,
William, in North Carolina. They made many trips to Dade City, Florida, over
the years, to visit with my grandmother, Berta Lee (West) Norman, my uncle,
Rufus Norman, and other Norman relatives.
I never knew that Grandma Norman spent so much time staying with the Hatchells
and Aunt Eloise Norman. I told Sue about the time Grandma spent a couple of
weeks with us when I was fifteen, and she taught me how to play the card game,
Canasta. "She taught us, too," Sue said. It was like we lived
parallel lives, hundreds of miles apart, connected by our Grandmother Norman.
Sue told us stories about her family and our mutual aunts, uncles and cousins
that I'd never known, and her two children and grandchildren that I've never
met. We share a mutual love of chickens and dogs, we both majored in accounting
in college (although she went much farther than I did), love photography, and
love camping (something I haven't been able to partake of in prison). Libby
shares the same interests, and sitting across the table from them, observing
them smiling and laughing, I was struck by the almost instant connections the
two of them shared.
I told Sue that my clearest memory of her father, my Uncle Ed, was the ever
present fishing cap he always wore, and the time he and Uncle Rufus took me
fishing with them to a local lake, where he showed me how to cast a spinning
rod and reel. When I shared that with Sue, she smiled wistfully and said,
"He taught us, too."
She'd never heard the story Grandma told me about the prisoner of war camp in
South Georgia during World War II, or the German prisoner who worked on Grandpa
Robert Franklin Norman's farm. The Army allowed local farmers to sign out
German P.O.W.'s to work during the war, and their prisoner became like a member
of the family. He was a skilled mechanic, and after he repaired all Grandpa
Norman's broken farm equipment, neighbors lined up to get him to fix theirs.
When the war ended and the German prisoners were repatriated, their German
didn't want to leave, not only because Germany had been bombed into ruins, but
for fear of Hitler's punishment for having been captured by the enemy. Hitler
wanted all loyal Germans to fight to the death, and captured soldiers were
considered traitors to Germany. Fortunately for the P.O.W.'s, Hitler committed
suicide.
Sue told me I should write down that story, so here it is, Sue.
Sue told us stories I'd never heard, especially about Normans in Moultrie and
Norman Park, Georgia, Norman Junior College, and the Norman Museum. Those
places and Grandpa Norman's grave are on our list to one day visit. She also
filled in her own family history, which was sad for me, since I had missed out
on so much, being in prison most of my life, unable to maintain the family
relationships she shared with relatives I only knew by names. Sue, you asked
about Uncle Buddy's eldest daughter--I asked my mother on the phone--of course
she remembers the names of all our generation's cousins-- Ann Norman.
We shared details of our aunts and uncles, Aunt Frankie Lee's and my father's
brothers and sisters--I knew Uncle Buddy fought in WWII, but was surprised to
learn that their oldest brother, Theus Norman, had been in the Army, too.
I reunited with Aunt Frankie Lee and Aunt Eloise in May, 1985, at Zephyrhills
C.I., when they came for my father's funeral. When they entered the visiting
area and saw me, they both began crying. We embraced, and I teared up, too.
Aunt Frankie Lee told me, "When I saw you, you looked like our father as a
young man." I'd never met my Norman grandfather. He'd died years before I
was born. My father was sixteen, and convinced my grandmother to sign
enlistment papers that he was seventeen, allowing him to go off to war in the
Philippines, carrying a Browning Automatic Rifle (BAR) and guarding Japanese Imperial
Marine prisoners. He never drew his $70 a month pay, sending his allotment to
Grandma, instead hustling other soldiers as the checkers champion for his own
cash needs. When I told Sue my father met my mother while driving a cab after
the war, she told me that her father had driven a cab, too. No wonder we got
along so well. The similarities were almost spooky.
There is more, but it is late, and I must return to the requirements of life in
prison. I don't know how our visit affected my cousin Sue Jones, but it had a
tremendously positive impact on me. I felt that a lost treasure had been found.
Thanks, Sue.
Charlie Norman

