DATELINE: Christmas Day,
2013
Two years ago I wrote an
article, “A
PRISON CHRISTMAS PARTY WITH THE LOST BOYS ,” about how we put together an
special event at my previous prison. Prison, like society, can be
characterized
by the
haves and
have nots, prisoners who have families and friends who provide for
them, and those who do not, who have little or nothing. Since close to
ninety-five percent of prisoners do not receive family visits, Christmas is an
especially
difficult time for prisoners
separated and estranged from their families. Men get even more depressed and
short-tempered under such conditions, and the people in charge do little to
deal with the situation.
About a week before Thanksgiving, I approached a number of
fellow prisoners in my housing area, and asked them to read the lost boys
article. The follow up conversation with each one went something like this:
“What did
you think?”
“It was
very good. I wish I could write like that.”
“I meant the Christmas party idea,
those with money chipping in to feed everyone in the dorm, everyone together.”
“That was
great.”
“If we put
together a Christmas program for re-entry, will you help and participate?”
“Sure.”
“Some men
in here have nothing.”
“Yeah.”
“Can you
pledge money to help pay for the party?”
“Will five
bucks help?”
“It’s a
start. Would you volunteer to join the Christmas carol singers?”
“Sure.”
So it began small, talking
to each one, one-on-one, seeking agreement and commitments, In prison, it is
better to speak to individuals face-to-face, rather than making broad
announcements. I made a list, and onl had two men out of seventy-two say they
weren’t interested.
“I don’t celebrate Christmas.”
“That’s
okay. You eat, don’t you? You are welcome to join in. We’ll have enough food
for everyone.”
“I doubt that.”
“Wait and see.”
Three men volunteered to
cook three separate offerings, to provide a choice, and put together teams of
workers led by a Mexican, a black man, and a young white man. Another man
volunteered to make a prison cake out of honeybuns, cookies and hot cocoa mix.
The haves began purchasing cases of
Ramen noodles, crackers, cheese squeezers, tuna, sausage and bags of chili from
the sparsely stocked prison canteen. The Christmas carol singers practiced.
I went to the security
sergeants who supervise the dorm, told them our plans, that it would be a
positive occasion, building Christmas spirit and good feelings. They approved
it.
Things began coming
together. Libby generously obtained a stack of Christmas carols, made copies,
and sent them in. One night after a practice, the Christmas carol singers
returned to the dorm, pumped up, laughing. I asked one why he was so excited.
“We sang the 12
Days Of Christmas.”
“How did it go?”
“We nailed it!”
“Great.”
A few doubters and
naysayers scoffed.
“It’s not gonna work.”
“It’ll
be the same as usual. The guys with money will have a big party, and we’ll
watch them eat.”
“That’s
not going to happen,” I said. “You’ll see.”
This re-entry program I am
in consists mostly of prisoners who have four years or less before release, and
volunteered to take part in the State of Florida’s
attempts to provide transition from prison to free society. Most prisoners are
ill-prepared for return to freedom, uneducated, unskilled, poor or absent work
history, unresolved drug problems, no family support, no place to stay, no job
prospects. The odds of their return to criminal life and prison are high.
In theory, providing
programs, counseling, and options that will better prepare these men to become
law-abiding, self-supporting citizens will not only salvage otherwise wasted
lives, the human costs, but will also save the taxpayers millions of dollars a
year in incarceration costs.
In fact, the prisoners who
volunteer for the programs re-entry offers have a significantly better
statistical chance of getting out of prison and staying out, as opposed to
those who refuse to participate in self-improvement and self-awareness
programs. To some extent, that is due to the “self-selection process,”
prisoners who want to change their lives, who want to break the cycle of
incarceration, who realize that what they’ve been doing didn’t work, have a
much better prognosis for success than those who intend to get out when their
sentences expire and return to drugs and crime. They are “self-selecting,” too
— choosing failure.
Not all the prisoners in
re-entry are “short-timers.” A small core group of “lifers,” men with long
sentences, mostly older, more mature, some having served decades in prison and
getting out one day, while others may never get out. These men act as mentors
to the mostly younger men with short sentences, providing a calming influence,
father figures to some extent.
What is lacking in most
prisons is a sense of community and responsibility — not just being responsible
for oneself and his family, but also the prison community the man has been cast
into. In some small way, something as innocuous as a Christmas program can
jumpstart that process and change men’s lives.
I made up a flyer
advertising the Christmas party on Christmas Eve, December 24, 2013. There are
too many distractions on Christmas Day. The flyer served as a daily reminder that
something would be happening, and everyone was invited to attend.
There is a large
whiteboard on the dorm wall, perhaps five feet high and six feet wide. At the
top, in colored letters, are the words, “RE-ENTRY CHANGES LIVES,” with a couple
of cartoonish convicts in striped uniforms holding out unlocked handcuffs. This
whiteboard is underutilized, often having anonymous, ungrammatical and
misspelled adages and quotations from unknown sources posted on it, intended to
uplift and encourage. I decided to wipe off the board and start something new.
Libby donated dry erase
markers for use in the creative writing class I am teaching, so I started out
with a large, calligraphic-style red “Merry Christmas,” at the top, with a
border of green holly leaves and red berries. A Christmas tree filled up the
left bottom corner. The prison doesn’t put up Christmas trees anymore, perhaps
to placate atheists, but the majority of men in re-entry go to chapel services
of one denomination or other. Christmas trees are part of our American
tradition and culture, and even the small minority of Muslims, Jews and Hebrew
Israelites expressed their approval of the colorful tree. It helps that I can
draw.
A Christmas card that
Libby sent me had a nice silhouette of palm trees and three wise men on camels
leading off into the distance, so I reproduced that, with a star overhead. A
dove, a symbolic Bethlehem in the distance, “Peace On Earth, Goodwill Toward
Men,” the first stanza pf “Hark, the Herald Angels Sing,” a “Feliz Navidad” for
the Hispanics, and the blank whiteboard had morphed into a Christmas spirit
generator. Prisoners admired it, and guards came to see it. No dissents.
Another prisoner said he
had made a Christmas tree last year out of cardboard and construction paper.
The “Merry Christmas” board inspired him to do something to contribute. He
asked me what I thought.
“Do it.”
He did, with the help of
several other men, and then took a cardboard box, turned it sideways, and made
a redbrick “fireplace,” with red, yellow, and orange flames. Then they made a
garland of colored paper connected in rings, and hung them up. In just a few
hours the drab “dorm” had been converted into colorful Christmas displays.
About forty men, the haves, contributed over three hundred
dollars of food so everyone, about seventy men, would be able to share a
Christmas meal.
The time came for the
program to begin. We asked everyone to make a circle. This was the tricky part.
Would everyone circle up, or would some “hard-heads” refuse to participate,
jeopardizing the intent of the program? This is also the amazing part. Two
female officers in the glass control booth watched in amazement as the men
circled up and spontaneously gripped each others’ hands. One man asked for
prayer requests on this special day. Most prisoners’ requests followed a
similar theme:
“Please pray for my family, that they be safe.”
“Pray for my mother. She has been sick.”
“Pray for my daughter.”
“My wife and children.”
“Pray for the staff.”
“The homeless, and those who have less than us.”
“Our service men and women, protecting us.”
“Please pray for our leaders and our country.”
“Please pray for me.”
And he did. Five minutes
later, after a fervent prayer followed by the Lord’s Prayer, the Christmas
carol singers picked up the pace with “Silent Night, Holy Night,” Joy To The
World,” “12 Days of Christmas,” and by popular demand, “Jingle Bells,” which
everyone joined in.
A few men asked to speak
to the group.
One man was visibly moved
with emotion and spoke in a loud voice. “I’ve been in prison a long time, and I
have never, I have NEVER seen or experienced anything like this in prison. Look
around you. Every man in this building is standing in a circle together, quiet,
listening to prayers, singing Christmas carols. Some of you may not realize it,
but this doesn’t happen in prison. This is something I will always remember,
and I hope you do, too. This tells me that we can be united, as a community,
like we are supposed to be. That’s all I have to say.”
Then the food was passed
out and shared by everyone, the haves
happily serving the have nots.
Someone plugged in an MP3 player and several men began an impromptu dance
contest, to cheers and clapping. The officers alternated coming out and
watching. Smiles, laughter and joy. It was amazing.
A little later, a Puerto
Rican man approached me. “I’ve only been in prison five years, but this has
been the best Christmas I’ve ever had. I know you put it all together, or none
of this would have happened. I want to thank you for doing it. I’ll be out next
year, and I’m going to send you some pictures of me on the street. I’m not
coming back to prison.”
“Good for you,” I said.
That made it all
worthwhile. Merry Christmas.
Charlie
